Times when the results are announced the toppers and achievers are always lauded but we ignore to see the flip side of this....the failures.They never get spoken about what if they rise like the phoenix from ashes or bite the dust nobody cares. A great sense of humiliation and expression of self defeat can come from failing an important test or exam.
When helping someone through this crisis, it's important to deal with the situation without resorting to criticism, rebuke, or making the person feel inadequate or confirming their sense of being a failure. Success is crucial yet at times failure can be linked to many an external cause, a state of mind, and not necessarily to any internal cause of intelligence or aptitude. Encourage him or her to look to the positive side and to embrace practicing persistence. Remind them that the only real failure is to give up too soon. If it seems that the unsuccessful candidate lacks the motivation or the determination to continue trying, overcome this by focusing on their previous successes in exams, tests, and other challenges, and the strategies they used in those situations.
Take a moment to help them identify the benefits of continuing to stick with their goals over abandoning them - this makes an excellent writing exercise as creating a list can help them to see things more clearly.
If you have time, have a look online for stories about people who have taken exams or tests more than once. You might be surprised how many people have done so! But more to the point, these people eventually succeed because they don't give up.
Failure is the stepping stone towards being more resilient,and it gives the person more humility and also sharpens one’s objectivity.
It's a chance to take up the challenge more seriously than self
Failure teaches more than success and it helps one to stay on track more often than get strayed by success.
Negative criticism always act as brownie points to resurrect the faults and not take them personally.
Typically in fact, a recent research paper by Harvard Business School states that failed entrepreneurs have a better chance of succeeding in their second effort than first time ones. Moreover, second time entrepreneurs have a substantially higher chance of raising funding than first timers. If so, can failed startup experiences be useful for entrepreneurs who are starting out now?
If you missed out a promising session : Inaugural Lecture in SPIPA’s Lecture Series. By Shri Ashok Chawla, Chairman, Competition Commission of India. Venue : Auditorium, SPIPA, Ahmedabad
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